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7 Reasons You’re Stuck – Part 3

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This is part 3 in our 4 part series, “7 Reasons You’re Stuck.”

In the past two days we’ve examined 4 common reasons people get in a rut.

Reasons 5 & 6 are deeply ingrained in many of us.  Let’s take a look.

5.  Belief that things will eventually improve, on their own.

You’re relationship isn’t what you want.  Your finances aren’t what you want.  Your career isn’t what you want.

But you dream of the day that your “ship will come in.”  This is what 99% of the human race is doing..sitting idle in the hopes that some unforeseen stroke of luck will change their fate.

Here’s the reality: it’s never going to happen.

We reap what we sew.  If we are not sewing then have no hopes of reaping.  It’s that simple.

Before I dive into that idea though, let’s just say that there is some “lottery” day in your future when things magically turn around.  Why would you wait?  Aren’t you worth more?  Don’t you deserve better?  Wouldn’t it feel great to be the ACTIVE mechanism in your destiny rather than sitting passively like a ping-pong ball on the ocean taking whatever gets thrown at you?

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7 Reasons You’re Stuck – Part 2

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Yesterday we explored the first two reasons you’re stuck in a rut.  In case you missed it, here’s Part 1.

Today we continue with two more.

3.  Hoping others would help but they didn’t.

Some of you have taken action and actually moved in the direction of your dream.  But shortly after your journey began you found yourself at a standstill.  This is a frustrating place to be, because you are just as “stuck” as you were before, but with the added feeling of failure and helplessness at what to do next.

In many cases, the cause of your rut is that you were counting on other people who ended up not participating, or promising participation and then letting you down.

This is a classic mistake.  We’re really pursuing the goal because we’ve convinced ourselves it will be easy.  “I can have a successful web business because my friend promised to build my website for me.”  “I can kill this network marketing business because I know 5 friends that will sign up instantly.”  “My grand-dad will for sure give me a loan.”

When the initial “sure thing” of support goes away, the journey, in our mind, goes from easy to hard and we’re ready to give up.

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7 Reasons You’re Stuck – Part 1

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Do you ever feel stuck?  Do you ever wonder how to get un-stuck?

One of my favorite movies is the comedy Groundhog Day, starring Bill Murray.  In the film, Murray plays television weatherman Phil Connors, whose self-absorbed persona is given its due come-uppance when he is entered into a time-loop that forces him to relive February 2nd, Groundhog Day, repeatedly.

Unfortunately for most people, living in a loop where we repeat the same day endlessly is not a situation comedy.  It’s life.  Last year was pretty much the same as the year before, which was pretty much the same as the year before that.

If you want this year to be different, you should become familiar with the enemy.  Namely, the causes of your repetition.  In this 4-part series, we’re going to examine why people get “stuck.”

Reason #1: You need certainty

All of us are built with an internal governor that ensures self-preservation.  Our subconscious mind is constantly assessing risks and guiding our behavior accordingly.  Should I cross the street now?  Is the water deep enough to jump?  How hot is that coffee?  This natural level of risk assessment is healthy and necessary.  However, for many of us, we have been programmed to crank up the volume on that little voice and our gentle minder has turned into an unyielding dictator.  We dare not move unless we are absolutely “certain” that the outcome will be a positive one.

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A Useful Exercise

As we head into the last month of the year, here’s a great exercise to get you ready for 2013.  Grab a piece of paper and a pen and play along.  This should take you no more than 15 minutes and will make a big impact!

Step 1 – Make a list of all the important areas of your life.  Spiritual maturity, financial health, physical health, relationship with your spouse, relationship with your children, business/career, etc.

Step 2 – Go through each area and rate them on a scale from 1-10 with 10 being the best it could be.  Maybe you’re a 6 in finances, an 8 in your relationship with your kids, and a 3 in your spiritual walk.  Just go with your gut.

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