In this episode, Scott Ross covers lies leaders tell themselves about listening, relationships, and responsibility.
In the last post on courtship, we discussed step 1 of the process: Making a List.
Now we move to step 2, which is to prepare yourself for marriage. In ancient times, preparation for marriage and the practical side to life was a natural part of childhood. Children were not separated from their parents through statist compulsory education programs, so young men spent all their days with mature men who were married. Likewise, young ladies spent all day helping their mothers and other female family members run the home. This went a long way toward teaching what was required for a successful marriage. Of course, there was a lot that was not taught, even in those environments, that we can learn today due to the abundance of resources that we have available to us.
In a previous post, we outlined some overarching principles to guide our thinking on courtship. Now we begin to lay out a practical model for the courtship process.
Step 1: Make A List
In Alice in Wonderland, Alice has an exchange with the Cheshire Cat that goes like this:
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where—” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
In my last post, I responded to an article written by Thomas Umstattd Jr. that went viral condemning courtship as fundamentally flawed. In my response, I hoped to point out the many logical fallacies that formed the basis of Mr. Umstattd’s conclusions and at a secondary level point out the negatives of the modern approach to dating.
As a follow up over the next several posts, I intend to demonstrate why courtship is a superior mechanism for the identification and choosing of a spouse, and lay out a practical model that virtually anyone can follow who desires to court rather than to date.