There is a very special brand of person that has been called to serve the dying in their final days. The caregivers who work in hospice and palliative care operate in proximity to death on a daily basis and they work to bring peace and rest to those in their stead.
For these angels of mercy, there are 5 themes that seem to repeat from those they serve. They are the issues that rob the dying of their peace. While they wrack those in their final days with regret, they can serve as instruction to those of us with much more life ahead of us.
They give us a lens of clarity to ensure that our days are not wasted.
Over the next few days we’re going to focus on the 5 regrets of the dying to ensure that in our final moments we will have no such torment.
The first regret is that they lived the life that others expected rather than the life they wanted to live.
It has been said that the wealthiest place in the world is the graveyard. In the graveyard is buried millions of great songs, books, inventions, businesses, and movements. In the graveyard is buried intentions, dreams, and aspirations.
When talking to the dying, if you ask what their dreams were, they will get a sparkle in their eye, and tell you a story.
But when you ask if they pursued it, they far too often say “no.”
Their parents wanted them to do_______.
They got married and had bills to pay so they settled for_______.
They told people their dream and it was shot down so they did_________.
It was too crazy. It was too risky. You’ll hear the rationalization that lead them to abandon their dreams. But then a silence will settle over them. And they’ll confess that they should have just gone for it.
Who are you living to please? Whose expectations are driving your decisions?
What dream or dreams have you left aside in the name of vulgarities like “reasonable, realistic,” and “safe?”
Let’s learn from those who have left us. Be true to your dream. Go for it!